I recently coached one of my employees to discuss her life goals. She’s got big dreams, all o f them achievable. In the two years I’ve known her, however, she’s made virtually no progress. She has no problem with the idea of a new life. Her problem is letting go of the old one.
To get closer to where we want to go, we’ve got to move away from where we are. Improving life means giving up everything that’s insufficient. For example, if you want to have better friends, you need to let go of the ones who aren’t good for you. If you want a better job, you need to leave the one you’ve got. To start a healthier diet, you’ve got to stop with the junk food. Life improvements can’t happen unless we make room for them.
We all long for stability. Too often that means stasis. That’s when things aren’t getting worse, but they’re not getting better. The problem is, time is ticking by, and so are opportunities. Our days are finite. If life is moving forward without you, it’s the same as if you’re moving backward.
What are you holding on to? From what is it keeping you? Are you stuck in the same dead-end relationship? Are you still working an unfulfilling job? Are you living in the same uninspiring community? These things feel safe because they’re familiar. Unfortunately, there’s nothing more dangerous than too much safety.
Maybe it’s time to go on a life diet. Unload all the excess. Get rid of everything that’s not working for you, whatever and whoever that may be. Create space for better people and better opportunities. By doing this you are inviting a whole new world to enter your life. It will be scary, it will be thrilling and it will be healthy.
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